An féidir leis na meáin shóisialta an dúlagar a leigheas?

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TréadaMarcas Earl cuir in áirithe, Tréada, léamh an-chrua domsa. Ná glac leis sin ar an mbealach mícheart. Is leabhar iontach é a fuair mé trí bhlag Hugh McLeod.

Deirim ‘diana’ mar ní radharc 10,000 troigh é. Leabhar casta is ea Tréad (Conas oll-iompar a athrú trí leas a bhaint as ár bhfíor-nádúr) a thugann mionsonraí críochnúla ar raidhse staidéar agus sonraí chun teacht suas lena bhunphrionsabal. Chomh maith leis sin, ní hé Mark Earls do ghnáth-údar leabhar gnó - má léann tú a leabhar is dóigh liom go bhfuilim ag léamh leabhar atá go hiomlán as mo léig (tá sé i ndáiríre!). Más intleachtach tú agus meas agat ar smaointeoireacht dhomhain dhomhain agus na critéir tacaíochta - seo do leabhar.

Má tá tú faking cosúil liomsa, is leabhar iontach é freisin. Might D’fhéadfadh mé cuid den ábhar saibhir a shíothlú trí scríobh faoi anseo, ach sin an scéal! Tá mé ag dul dó.

Pill na Meán SóisialtaÁbhar amháin a mbaineann Mark leis ná an dúlagar. Luann Mark dhá chúis choitianta a bhaineann le dúlagar - caidreamh tuismitheoirí lena leanbh agus caidreamh duine le daoine eile. Ní féidir liom cabhrú ach n’fheadar an é nach iad na Meáin Shóisialta an rogha eile is fearr Prozac chun leigheasanna sóisialta cosúil le dúlagar a leigheas. Geallann na Meáin Shóisialta ceangal a dhéanamh le daoine eile nach bhfuil lasmuigh de do chiorcal áitiúil sa bhaile, san oifig, nó fiú i do chomharsanacht.

Twitter, WordPress, Facebook, Cruinnigh, Cluichí ar líne… ní ‘Web 2.0’ amháin atá sna feidhmchláir seo go léir, is bealaí iad chun cumarsáid a dhéanamh lena chéile. Ní haon ionadh go bhfuil an oiread sin éilimh ar iarratais shóisialta. Nach bhfuil sé i bhfad níos éasca daoine a bhfuil sábháilteacht an Idirlín eadrainn a oscailt?

Ag comhdháil cúpla mí ó shin, is cuimhin liom bean a d’fhiafraigh:

Cé hiad na daoine seo agus conas a bhíonn siad ar líne gach uair an chloig den lá? Nach bhfuil saol acu?

Is peirspictíocht spéisiúil é!, Nach ea? Tá amhras orm faoi seo do go leor daoine is a saol. Seo an nasc atá acu le daoine eile, a gcaitheamh aimsire, a gcuid spéiseanna, a gcairde agus a dtacaíocht. San am atá caite, b’éigean do ‘loner’ maireachtáil ina aonar. Ach inniu, ní gá ‘loner’ a dhéanamh! Is féidir leis / léi loners eile a aimsiú leis na caitheamh aimsire céanna!

D’fhéadfadh roinnt a mhaíomh nach bhfuil an cineál seo líonra ‘sóisialta’ agus an líon sábháilteachta a ghabhann leis chomh sláintiúil le fíorchaidreamh agus teagmháil dhaonna. B’fhéidir go bhfuil siad ceart… ach nílim cinnte an bhfuil daoine ag caitheamh leis seo mar rogha eile. I gcás go leor daoine, seo is an t-aon bhealach cumarsáide atá acu.

In High School ba ealaíontóir iontach é cara liom, Mark. Béar mór Guy a bhí ann. Bhí féasóg iomlán air sa 10ú grád agus scríobh sé leabhair grinn le scéalta faoi Vampires agus Werewolves. Ba bhreá liom crochadh amach le Mark ach d’fhéadfainn a rá i gcónaí go raibh sé míchompordach timpeall ar gach duine - fiú mise. Ní dóigh liom go raibh dúlagar air ar chor ar bith, ach bhí sé ciúin go leor ach amháin i gcás na bhfásach ó am go chéile (d’fhás mé ar ais).

Is féidir liom a shamhlú go hionraic go raibh Mark ina ealaíontóir cáiliúil eicléictiúil, anois, nó b’fhéidir ina chónaí san fhásach leis féin inniu. Ní féidir liom cabhrú ach n’fheadar, áfach. Dá mbeadh blag agus asraon ag Mark chun a chuid scéalta dochreidte a fhoilsiú, sílim go mbeadh baint aige leis na mílte eile a raibh na leasanna céanna acu. Bheadh ​​líonra sóisialta aige - líonra cairde agus lucht leanúna a spreag agus a raibh meas air.

Nílim ag tuar ar bhealach ar bith go bhfuil blagairí ag éalú ó dhúlagar nó uaigneas trínár gcuid scríbhneoireachta. Déanaimid; áfach, bainimid meas mór as ár léitheoirí. Tá mé aon éagsúla. Má fheicim duine ag dul suas ar bhlagálaí eile ar cara liom é, léimfidh mé isteach agus cosnóidh mé é. Má chloisim faoi bhlagálaí atá tinn, guím i ndáiríre ar a shon agus a theaghlach. Agus nuair a stopann blagaire ag blagáil, ní fada liom uaim cloisteáil uathu.

Ag obair 50 go 60 ár seachtain agus a bheith i m'athair aonair, níl mórán de “Saol” (mar atá sainithe ag an mbean a luaigh mé) taobh amuigh de mo bhlag agus mo shlí bheatha. Go híorónta, áfach, mo saol ar líne tacúil, sona agus gealladh fúthu. Is fear fíor-shásta (neamh-íocleasaithe ach róthrom) mé. Ní chreidim go bhfuilim ag iarraidh ceann eile a chur ina áit. Sílim go bhfuil an dá rud chomh tábhachtach agus fiúntach. Déanta na fírinne, creidim gur bhrúigh mo shaol ‘ar líne’ orm a bheith i mo chumarsáid níos fearr i mo shaol ‘fíor’. Tá sé teiripeach dom a scríobh agus mothaíonn sé go hiontach nuair a fhaighim aiseolas ar mo chuid scríbhneoireachta (fiú má tá sé diúltach).

Is í an fhírinne, mura mbeadh an líonra tacaíochta atá agam leatsa folks… is dócha D'fhéadfadh a bheith míshásta agus d’fhéadfadh sleamhnú isteach sa dúlagar. Is dócha go mbeinn ag imirt cluichí físeáin san oíche agus ag déanamh trua do mo chomhghleacaithe i rith an lae.

B’fhearr liom go mór mo Web 2.0 Pills a thógáil gach lá.

9 Comments

  1. 1

    First off I don’t believe that the social Web 2.0 presence stuff like Twitter, blogs and the such are anywhere near a cure for things like depression and I defintely don’t agree with Mark’s reasoning for the causes of depression.

    That said however I do believe that in some ways our intercommunication through the web does help one’s self-esteem, sense of wellbeing and in some cases help one through some really difficult periods in one’s life. I will qualify that though that I don’t place blogs on the same level as Twtitter and the such (I’ll be doing something on that one of these days very soon).

    For example as part of WinExtra I also have an IRC channel that is semi-invite (especially if I know folks actually do IRC in the first place) and one of my close friend’s in the last year realize that he needed to make a serious live change to over come an addiction. He was successfull – well as successful as one can be with an addicition – but he said to me one day that if it wasn’t for the IRC channel and the people there he honestly didn’t know if he would have made it through that very dark time.

    In one other case that just happened one of the longtime mebers of the WinExtra forums and IRC channel stopped posting or showing up in channel. In turn two members in the US became very concerned and began the process of trying to track him done to make sure he was okay. Well today he suddenly appeared in channel and it was like a long lost friend finally coming back home – both for him and us.

    This is community and while it didn’t ogignate in the Web 2.0 world of social networks I will take that over any Facebook or Twitter community anytime. Along with that I think it shows that if an online community has longevity and depth of friends (which if you understand that our forums as small as they might be have been around for six plus years) it does make a part of a person’s life better and gives you a feeling of belonging – which really is all we as human being want from our lives.

  2. 2

    Hi Steven,

    I warned that I may have mutilated Mark’s words… looks like I did! Mark references some articles on depression and doesn’t state that these are definitively the only sources of depression – these are just a couple that were mentioned. The theory of Social Media and it’s opportunity to help depression is not Mark’s, it’s one that I wonder about.

    Awesome story about your community and I agree with you – belonging is ultimately what everyone needs to be healthy. I think Social Media leaves us open to ‘belong’ to communities that we never would have been exposed to otherwise.

    Thanks for the exceptional comment!
    Doug

  3. 3

    Excellent post, Doug! I find social networking a way to keep in touch with the moods and lives of many people that I consider to be friends, some of them even close friends, and impact other lives that I otherwise would not have enough hours in the day to do so. If I see a friend in need, I am able to quickly get in touch to see what I can do to provide support. I’ve also gained friends (yourself included!) through electronic communication that I otherwise might not have come to know quite as well, which in turn has turned into offline friendships as well.

    P.S. I missed your daily writings while you were busy with your project and transition. I’m so glad to see your posts recently!

    • 4

      Thanks Julie! I’m trying to get back to a good pace but I’m struggling. I work long hours and I’ve added exercise (imagine that!) to the mix. I haven’t figured out the right formula yet – I’m pretty cranky and tired.

      I’ll get there!

  4. 5

    I completely agree with the theory that using social media sites is a good therapeutic thing to do. For me, I have found that it is very good and freeing for me to write about my feelings. Even if no one reads them. There is power in actually writing it down. I also love sites like Facebook and MySpace. They allow people to connect more than they maybe would if they didn’t have that connection. Thanks for posting this information about social media sites. I hope that more and more people find the good in it.

    • 6

      We’re definitely social animals, aren’t we Jason? If there’s no means for us to socialize, I’m confident that that can lead to many social disorders and can cascade into other issues.

      Like you, I really find writing as a great pressure release valve. As well, when someone thanks me or posts about what I’ve written – that does wonders for the ol’ self esteem!

  5. 7

    I feel that the pain from depression can in fact be alleviated as a result of engaging in social media activities. Look at case studies from individuals who partake in Second Life for example. They can create avatars based on the physical attributes they want and connect with people on levels they may never have been able to before. That’s just one example.

    I personally was witness to how social media can help. I was monitoring a MySpace depression group discussion to analyze how people suffering from depression, anxiety, bipolar, OCD, etc. rely on these communities for support. While watching the conversation unfold I watched as an individual discussed harming herself. The community immediately jumped in and helped her out. It was as if the MySpace community acted as her lifeline.

    I think with where social media is going we will see more services become available dedicated to specific niches. Othair Cosúil Mise (a past client of mine who I was doing research for at the time) is bringing people suffering from various types of depression together so they can share their experiences and connect with one another. It’s an amazing tool and just goes to show you how powerful social networks are in keeping a persons feet on the ground. The good thing is a social network like PLM only lets people suffering from a condition join in the group. This greatly increases the participation level because they know they aren’t alone.

    Thanks for this great post Doug!

  6. 9

    I think that social media can help people deal with depression, why not?

    My philosophy is that everyone of us, and everything on earth are all connected. We all originated from a single source of energy, and depression is a result of a feeling of being separated from this source.

    Yeah I know it all sounds pretty new agey. But it is a simple concept, and it make sense to me.

    I dont think that social media is a cure, but it does bring people together, and that is what we all crave in our core being.

    My step-daughter spends most of her online time on a site called nexopia. She has met many of her friends, locally and from other places on this social networking site. Social sites help us meet people with similar interests, and are a tool to keep us in touch with current, and old friends.

    I have been reading “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. This book goes into detail about why we feel depression, anxiety and more.

    He offers up the solution to “live in the now” as a cure. I agree, and also recomment this book for anyone interested in a philisophical guide to happiness.

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